Q: Ok Im 12,yes a female & I have fat over my neck,usually I want to lose weight cause I weigh 128. Though when I ask my mom if I can join dance since I like dance she doesn't let me since my brother used to quit a lot of things when he was younger,& also she's not the kind to always eat healthy things so I don't know what to do. Also I had lost some weight & then gained so I've had stretch marks ever since I don't know how to make them go away I've been trying the Cocoa Butter Cream (I don't remember the name though I thnk that's it) & Vicks VapoRub since some say it also works but I'm not sure what else to do. Can you help?

A: Sorry to hear about your problems. Unfortunately I can't help you convince your mom let you take dance -- you'll hopefully work it out with her. But I can tell you that losing weight at your age is almost certainly not a good idea. 128 pounds may seem like a lot for your present height but you are not done growing! Your growth is your best friend by far in losing fat. If you grow to be even just 5 foot 2 inches or so, 128 pounds will be very healthy if not outright skinny. But if you lose weight now you're risking stunting your growth, so you might get stuck at your present height and never reach your potential. So do not actively try to lose weight -- just eat as healthy as you can (lots of veggies, fruits and whole grains), stay active and grow -- and extra fat will take care of itself.

Stretch marks is another reason to not try to lose weight at your age. Unfortunately there's no guaranteed cure for them. Vitamin E products like the ones you are trying may help a little as will time.